Proverbs 10:1-5 A Wise Son

Proverbs of Solomon

 1The proverbs of Solomon:

   A wise son brings joy to his father,
   but a foolish son brings grief to his mother.

 2 Ill-gotten treasures have no lasting value,
   but righteousness delivers from death.

 3 The LORD does not let the righteous go hungry,
   but he thwarts the craving of the wicked.

 4 Lazy hands make for poverty,
   but diligent hands bring wealth.

 5 He who gathers crops in summer is a prudent son,
   but he who sleeps during harvest is a disgraceful son.

A Wise Son

At first glance the, the writing of Proverbs 10 seems like a list of unrelated truths.  It seems like the writer went around and asked for people’s favourite sayings and listed them al together in random order.  Upon closer examination we see that there is a structure, and the structure is arranged around themes.  The first theme is the wise son.  Verses 1 and 5 distinctly mention the son and the verses in between show his characteristics.  A wise child, daughters are to be included here, brings a relieved sigh from the lips of parents.  Parents try their best, but they are never quite sure how their children will turn out.  In fact, although Proverbs offers guidelines, it offers no guarantees.  I want to be a son who pursues God as the identifying principle of my life.  If I am such a son, I have a better chance of producing such a son.  I want my wife to pursue God with everything that she has.  If she is such a woman, our daughter is more likely to become such a woman.  In the scheme of God, he may bless us with riches, but if we cut corners and pursue schemes to be what our culture calls ‘success’ we will actually be fools by the terms of Proverbs.  True life is a life lived for God.  This is the example that we must set for our children.  If we communicate that church is boring, worship is dull, and Bible-reading is painful our children will find life elsewhere.  Involve children in the hard work that you do.  Draw them into family chores and your day job.  In so doing you set up a pattern that they are more likely to follow.  It is because we leave them without direction that they find no direction.  It is because we let them entertain themselves that they crave entertainment.  It is because we feed them junk that they crave junk to eat.  It is often because our souls are shallow and malnourished that they learn to escape and self-medicate. If we want children to be proud of, we must live lives incorporating our children in ways that they can be proud of.

Questions

  1. What does the passage describe as the result of laziness? 
  2. How does the LORD treat the wicked in this passage?
  3. What would make a Hebrew parent proud?
  4. What makes parents proud of children today?  What should?
  5. How are you passing on to your children what you want them to become?

 

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Back in the USA: The Chinese Adoption Trip Letters

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Some of you received letters from us as we traveled through China.    I was unable to fulfill my promise of posting daily to WordPress as China blocks social networking sites.  So here are the complete letters for those who are interested.

China 2012 Adoption Trip

Day 1

The first day of the two weeks was spent traveling from Chicago O’Hare over the North Pole to Beijing.  Although our plane was delayed for two hours and we had packed too much luggage, we were upgraded to Economy Plus with plenty of leg room.  We arrived in Beijing relatively fresh after spending more than twelve hours in a plane.

Day 2

We told several of you that we would be keeping up a blog while we are here in China. However, that has proven to be very difficult, if not impossible. Peter can’t access his blog. And the site I was going to use won’t let me download pictures. That’s not acceptable! So we are resorting to good, old fashioned e-mail updates. We hope to send a brief account of how things go each day and attach a few pictures.
 
So here is what’s been happening so far…
 
Peter and I slept fairly well last night (thanks to melatonin!) and woke up early enough to Skype Daryl before he went to bed. We are 13 hours ahead of Chicago time, which works out quite well actually. When we’re going to bed, he’s getting up and vice versa.  We are very thankful that Daryl seems to be doing really well with everything so far. Grandma kept him busy yesterday. He had school and then he said he had a good time playing at the park with Andrew and looking for snakes in the grass.

Here in Beijing, after our breakfast buffet, we had an informational meeting with our agency representative. There we got to meet the other families in our travel group. There are seven families here so far. I believe a few more are joining us later. It has been fun to get to know these families and hear each adoption story. Every family’s journey is so unique. Two of the famlies are here for the third time, and they’ve brought their other daughters on the trip. It’s fun to see the girls experience a bit of Chinese culture.

This afternoon we all went to a Chinese acrobatic show. Incredible! The pictures can’t do it justice. The balance, coordination, flexibility, strength, and trust…I’m sure there’s a sermon illustration or two in there.
 
Tomorrow morning we’re off to see the Great Wall and other sights. It’s a privilege to be able to get a taste of China these three days. But we are all eagerly anticipating Monday morning when we will meet our daughters for the first time. It still seems surreal.

Day 3

Today was wet and misty to add to the smog.  Visibility was poor and Kelli is sick with a flu type bug.  Despite that, we had a good day.  We went to a cloisonné (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cloisonn%C3%A9) factory first.  We saw them taking copper and beating it by hand to make pots and other various shapes.  Then they were laying copper strips and adding enamel.  It is all very labour intensive but the results are beautiful.
 
We took winding roads up into the mist to the Great Wall.  It was 4,000 miles long, so we didn’t see much.  The section that we climbed had steep stairs and they just kept going up.  It left Kelli and myself with legs like jelly and in need of dinner.  One of the girls in our party asked me where I had been.  I said I had been to Mongolia and then she suddenly started mocking me with a pretty good British accent.  After inching back down clogged roads we went to a jade factory and I bought Kelli her Mothers’ Day present.  It is a jade necklace with the symbol for ‘love’ written on it.
 
Finally we went to the Olympic Village and walked around the outside of the ‘bird’s nest’ stadium which hosted the track and field for the 2008 Olympics.  We were all cold and wet and tired by this time.  It was back to the hotel for a hot bath, nyquil, and sleep.
 

Day 4

I am writing this after a workout on Gotcha Day.  I’ll let you know how Gotcha Day goes and send you pictures later.  This is just an update with pictures from yesterday.
 
In the morning we got up early and checked out of Chang An Hotel in Beijing.  All our bags were packed and rady to go by 7:00 and we left for Tiennamen Square at 8. 
 
Tiennamen Square is outside the Gate of Heavenly Peace.  The Gate of Heavenly Peace is the Tiennamen, so the square gets its name from that.  It is the red gate that has a large picture of Chairman Mao beneolently looking down on his people.  On one side of the square is the Chinese government building.  We stopped for a group picture and then entered through the Gate of Heavenly Peace to The Forbidden City.  We walked through the Forbidden Palace and saw the throne rooms and business rooms of the last emperor.  I was running the movie The Last Emperor through my (Peter’s) head trying to remember the locations.  It was impressive.
 
After the palace we went through an old section of town where houses are built around a courtyard.  Because land is at a premium the governemnt has to pay the owners $5 million if they want to take the land for development.  The streets are so narrow that one can only get around easily by rickshaw.  There were scenic spots where people drink at night and there was an open house which we were able to go inside.
 
Finally we went for lunch at a place that didn’t look much from outside, but laid out a great spread.  I tried a bit of everything, but I particularly like scrambled eggs in boiled tomatoes.  Kelli also tried a little of most things.  I think we will be looking for a good Chinese cook book when we get home.
 
We graded for a few hours in the airport.  Then we flew to Nanchang.  Unlike USA domestic airlines, China gave us a full meal.  The plain was old and the engine sounded funny, but we won’t complain because (as you can see) we made it one piece. 
 
The hotel here is very nice.  Even nicer than the one in Beijing, and that was nice.  It is called The Galactic, if you want to check it out on-line.

Day 5

Kelli and I awoke excited this morning.  We burned off a little steam in the exercise lounge (I (Peter)used an eliptical for the first time).  Breakfast was a lavish affair, and I am glad we ate well because we wouldn’t eat again until after 5:00 p.m. 
 
There were heavy rains in and around Nanchang, so the delivery of the babies was delayed by almost an hour.  While we waited, we filled out some forms and transferred some money. Then, without warning, a procession of identically bundled babies was brought in by the orphanage workers.  All the parents were very excited, and our guide at once started to match the babies with their new parents.  We weren’t sure which baby was Lixin at first because she has so much more hair than in her referral pictures. But our guide called our names and the nanny gave her to us. We also received some formula and rice-cereal which she is used to.  The orphanage also included more pictures from her time there.  We took Lixin to our room briefly to give her a bottle and Skype Mum in the US. Daryl had been waiting up to see his sister, but because of the delay he had fallen asleep. Mum was eager to see her granddaughter though, and was full of excited remarks and disbelief. It was a modern marvel to be bale to share the moment with her just minutes after it had started.
 
After a quick conversation with Mum, we had to head back to the conference room where we prepared a series of forms and got documents and money ready for the day’s events.  Then we went back to our room again to bathe Lixin (now Amelia) and get her into some clean clothes.
 
At 12:45 our entire group headed out across a busy street to the adoption offices opposite our hotel.  There we promised to treat Amelia well and to raise her up with a good education.  We gave the officials a gift of Illinois Candy and they gave us a beautiful girl and a porcelain cup.  All of the adoptive parents were buzzing and the children/babies on the whole were very content.  Each one is already showing how unique she is.  One has stunning eyes, another laughs a lot, Amelia seems quite thoughtful but every now and then she rocks back and forth like she is at a rock concert. Perhaps she is going to share her big brother’s love of music.
 
Amelia does seem to have a slight cold or cough.  We will wait and see what happens there. She seems to be afraid of toys. We wonder how much stimulation she got at the orphanage. She only sits on her own for a second or two before she tips over. So we have some work to do there. She was quite snuggly, though, with Kelli and myself, and had a nap on both of us at various times.
 
Our second stop was the police station, and things got bogged down there.  Their internet went down for well over an hour, so we had to wait and wait.  Our group is very patient though.  Finally, at almost 5:00, we went to our final stop–the notary’s office.  The notary reconfirmed that we would take good care of Amelia, and we were finally done with our long day of meetings. Kelli took Amelia back to our room and put her down for the night while I did some shopping.  I returned from shopping to find Amelia Lixin asleep and her mummy proudly looking over her.
 
Now to see if we get a good night’s sleep.

Day 6

Today we woke up with our baby daughter still sleeping in the room.  She slept peacefully for 12 hours.  In fact she slept a lot today and each time she woke up she was a little more perky and her personality came through slightly more.  We cuddled her and fought a little over who got to hold her, but she had a lot of mummy and daddy time throughout the day.  We had her practicing a few of her skills to compensate some delays.  She isn’t good at sitting up on her own, and she isn’t pushing up during tummy time.  She is reaching for things a lot and she is pushing with her legs.  In fact we noticed how long and sharp her nails were because she left scratches on Kelli, me, and herself.  We decided we needed a trip to Walmart – yes, the great Chinese institution of Walmart – in order to get nail clippers, baby clothes and other essentials.
 
We set out for Walmart via RT-Mart, which is a local version.  They had dried squid and other dried seafood that I used to eat when I lived in Asia.  Kelli was almost overcome by the fishy smell, but I love it.  I think we need to bring plenty home so that Amelia will be reminded of home.  We saw a Chinese police car for Daryl at RT-Mart, but we left it there because we thought that things might be cheaper at Walmart.  I was sadly disappointed that although the quality of goods was defintely lower than average at Walmart, which you might expect, unlike the USA the prices at Walmart weren’t significantly cheaper.  Whilst at Walmart one of the checkout ladies called an impromptu meeting with her friends to express her amazement that Amelia was obviously underdressed for the harsh 50F weather.  As we left we wrapped a blanket around her legs and we hoped they approved.  So we got our essentials and moved on to August 1st Square where we could watch people flying kites.
 
Amelia napped at the hotel after reading books with her mummy and having some tummy time.  When she woke, my two girls 🙂 came and got me from the fitness room and we went exploring.  There is a tower in Nanchang that we are not scheduled to visit called the Shenjin Tower.  It is the oldest building in the city, being origionally a temple built on Buddhist relics.  It is said that if the Shenjin tower falls Nanchang will fall.  Kelli, Amelia and I wound our way through rush hour traffic and found it although it was closed.  There were old streets next to it with red lanterns, so it might be worth returning if we get the chance.  On the way back we visited a department store.  It is recommended that we get things from China for Amelia that we can give for various birthdays.  The department store was lavish and looked like it had just opened.  We found a dress that was quite unusual and when we asked the price a lot of attendants wanted to help us.  Also a lot of their friends wanted to help us, too.  Finally someone who spoke some English arrived who actually could help us and kindly explained that the item was 60% off.  When we offered to pay, she gave us a receipt that we took to a cashier who gave us a receipt that we took to the salesperson who gave us the dress.  She also gave us two free toys and a book.  They couldn’t have been nicer.
 
Kelli went back to put Lixin down and I went to KFC (It seems KFC is bigger than McDonald’s here).  They have an English menu which usually makes it easier to order.  However, this time it all got rather confusing and I came back with about half of what I thought I had ordered.  Kelli was forgiving and there was much mutual praise of what it is like to be on this kind of adventure with each other.

Day 7

As the local authorities process our paperwork we are ‘stuck’ in Nanchang.  Nanchang is an industrial city of about 4 million people.  By China’s standards this is not large.  Our guide tells us that Nanchang does not have the infrastructure of other cities and so it is considered a ‘lesser’ city when compared to Guangzhou (Canton), Xi’an, or Beijing.  We have had plenty of free time to get to know the city, but we also have scheduled sightseeing with our guide, ‘Mary’.  People who interact with foreigners here have two names, one for the Chinese and one for foreigners.  Our guide goes by ‘Mary’.  She took us to the Tengwang Pavilion today.  It is a huge structure, rebuilt recently, on the site of a structure where a prince from Xi’an during the Tang Dynasty built to entertain himself.  The wars of China kept destroying the wooden structures until the latest version was built with concrete.  Our guide took us in and we saw a traditional Chinese artistic display with classical dancing, singing, and music.  It only lasted about 15 minutes but it was colourful and quite unique.  Amelia was transfixed.
 
After the Pavilion the group went out for lunch together and ate at a fancy Chinese location.  We had chicken, green beans, dumplings, egg-rolls and various other dishes roating on a lazy Susan.  I think everyone got enough and then we went back to the hotel for the children to nap.  Amelia didn’t nap long so Kelli and I went on an adventure again.  This time we wove through the traffic to Nanshang’s main shopping street.  There are a few large department stores with four expansive floors but they are not busy like the streets.  The streets are lined with various shops which seem very small by American or British standards.  The smells going down the street change as often as the shops.  One minute you are thinking of wonderful baked goods and the next you are overwhelmed with a smell like sewage.  On the streets there are some beggars with various levels of disability.  You tend to think that begging is what the disabled do here.  There was one woman who seemed little more than a torso laying flat on the sidewalk.  The fact that scooters drive as freely on the sidewalk as they do on the street left us with the fear that she would be in danger.  I guess that is not the case, but it looked that way.
 
My heart goes out to these people.  There are a lot of ideas about ‘luck’ and ‘fortune’ that people here run their lives by, but there is no substance to appeal to except maybe the force of ‘Fate’.  Some people look at a group of people the size of China and think it reinforces an atheist worldview:  How could a loving God allow a nation to perish in such numbers?  However, our Father reached out to the Assyrians through Jonah.  Maybe, we should care a little more about the fate of so many.  We know we will make a difference in the life of one Chinese girl.
 

Day 8

Just one week to go now and I will hopefully have my grading done.  As teachers we sometimes give the impression that we don’t have a lot of work except the odd lecture.  Actually, it is the grading that weighs on us more than the classroom time.  Kelli and I have huge stacks of grading that are due, so whilst enjoying Amelia Lixin we have to find time to whip out a red pen and run into a corner.  We have found a lot of support, though, for what we do.  You probably know that I teach teachers how to teach elementary school.  The teachers that I teach are quite unique.  They see the curriculum that they teach as a means of spiritual formation. In an age where a Barna study says that in their minds children have rejected the beliefs of their parents by 5th/6th grade, we want a different kind of teacher.  Those on the trip see the need.  Of course, strong teachers are just one way to deal with the issue.  Our small group is looking to involve Moody students in teaching our children on a Sunday night which hopefully will help our children resist the influence of peers, media, and schooling that encourages them to walk away.  Of course, in a communist country like China it is easy to see how one worldview in education has shaped the lives of countless children.
 
Yesterday, after morning cuddles and breakfast we headed to the People’s Park.  It was quite beautiful with waterways and rock gardens.  Near the entrance a group of women were dancing as their morning exercise and a couple of women from our group joined in.  They did well enough that our guide was asked to bring them back on Saturday.  Next we saw a group of small children chasing bubbles.  They were wrapped up for winter, but their bums were exposed by split pants.  In other words they wore pants that allowed them to pee or poop without removing them.  The weather was 65F but the children were wrapped up like it was -65F.  We wondered if we should go up to them like they do to us (when they tell us that our babies are too cold) and say, “Too hot!” and feel the children to see how sweaty they are.  We walked through an amusement park where children were fishing for goldfish.  We thought that our son, Daryl, would have loved it.  Also there was a spot where hundreds of goldfish of all sizes were coming up to be fed by the locals.  Next there were a series of pavilions where people were dancing, playing music, and engaged in chess and debate.  We tried to imagine what a political debate might look like in Nanchang People’s Park in Communist China:
 
Man 1:  I believe in the communist party.
Man 2:  I also believe in the communist party.
Man 1:  I believe that the communist party is efficient and serves the people!
Man 2:  I ALSO believe that the communist party is efficient and serves the people!!!!
Man1:  I will vote for the communist party.
Man 2:  I also will vote for the communist party.
 
So much more efficient and harmonious than the Republican primaries when we left the USA.
 
We played some soccer with each other and played on a playground before going to Papa John’s Pizza for lunch.  People were fancying something less Chinese than usual and Papa John’s fit the bill.  For those who didn’t have Papa John’s there was the KFC option. 
 
While Kelli was going up to lay Amelia Lixin down for her nap, I had a meeting with our guide to review our paperwork.  Most people’s needed revision because one of the Chinese signatories was listed as a man in one place and as a woman in another.  However, our paperwork needs to be totally redone because they listed me (Peter) as an American.  Some of you may be surprised to hear that I am not American, especially since I have been living in the USA for 12 years or so.  I may become a dual citizen at some future date, but as of the moment I am solely British.  I am hoping that the paperwork will just be rewritten without any major drama.
 
In the afternoon and evening Kelli and I went on a long walk through the shopping streets in a storm.  It was nice to use and umbrella to protect my new daughter from the elements.  I was looking for a pair of Chevignon jeans.  I bought a pair in Hong Kong once and they were the best jeans I have ever owned.  After having Hagen Daas to revive ourselves we were able to keep searching for quite a while, but the search was fruitless.  We will have to continue the search in Guangzhou.

Day 9

We left Nanchang without Amelia’s passport but that should be following us soon.  We are now in The China Hotel (Marriott) in Guangzhou.  The flight to get here was smooth. Amelia Lixin settled right down for a nap and slep for the whole flight.  We touched down in Guangzhou in the mid-afternoon and popped out for a McDonald’s before settling down.  We tried to settle but Amelia didn’t like her new bed.  Although the hotel is plush, the rooms are smaller than the other hotels and so it is harder to get Amelia out of the light.  Also, she had a crib in Nanchang but she has a pack-and-play here.  We think she notices the difference.  On the positive side she is eating like a trooper.  She had a whole bowl of rice-cereal mixed with sweet-potato (see below).
 
Last night at about 10 our doorbell rang.  Kelli and I were sleeping and I jumped out and started rooting around for clothes.  I answered the door suspiciously and saw two pleasant Chinese ladies with a pack-and-play all made up.  They announced, “Baby bed!”  I then launched into a long explanation of how we already had a baby bed, but that our friends in other rooms had been complaining because they didn’t have one.  Perhaps they should try another room affiliated with our party, I suggested helpfully.  They paused and looked at each other.  Finally, they looked at me crestfallen, “No need?”  They said.  “No need,” I replied.

Day 10

Kelli woke with a bad stomach so she missed out on what is the best breakfast buffet to date.  The Marriott really knows how to put on a great spread.  All the families met up after breakfast and headed down to the International Travel Health Center where Chinese babies are authorized to travel.  The place was buzzing with foreigners and Chinese waiting to get their children vaccinated, credentialed and sanctioned for international travel.  We had to wait in four lines.  One line was for photos; another line was for ENT; another line was for height and weight; the final line was ‘general’.  We had nine families shuffling from line to line and we were just one agency among a few.  Everyone seemed to have the ‘Keep Calm and Carry On’ attitude, so no tempers got frayed.
 
It was mid-afternoon by the time we got to the hotel so Amelia Lixin and I took a quick nap.  After that Kelli and I went to the biggest clothing market I have ever seen.  It is called Liuhua Garment Wholesale Fairs Area and is located near the Ghuangzhou Railway Station.  We bought Daryl a Chinese police car and we bought Amelia a few cheap outfits.  On the way back we found some traditional Chinese retailers and bought her a couple of traditional Chinese outfits. 
 
Amelia had a nap not long before bed time and she seems to be teething.  Suffice to say we are having difficulty getting her to sleep. 

Day 11

Today was an R&R day in theory but Kelli and I walked for 5 hours.  Amelia Lixin was restless in the night possibly due to teething.  We let her sleep between Kelli and myself on the big bed after we had settled her down.  So Kelli and Amelia Lixin were still asleep at 7 when I went down for a quick 5k run.  We managed to get everyone up, ready and breakfasted for the 10 a.m. start and all the families went to the Chen Clan Academy.  Chen (Also Chan) is a very popular clan name in Guangzhou.  It is made up of 72 factions.  These factions came together to form a school to prepare their students for examinations that allowed them to advance in government.  Once the school became defunct under the communists it served a number of other functions, finally becoming the Guandong Folk Art Museum.  I must admit I did not have high expectations when we were first told we were going to a museum.  I expected some new, cubist structure of glass, concrete and stone.  I couldn’t have been more wrong.  The building was full of carving and craftsmanship.  The shops had artisans cutting paper, making thumb paintings, practicing calligraphy and embroidering.  There was even a pretty garden in the rear.  One of the girls from North Caroline, Abigail, joined our family for most of the visit and we had a pleasant conversation as we looked over the exhibits.  One thing that stood out to me was the detail on the carved bone and ivory.  Carved camel bone didn’t bother me – however, I assumed the ivory came from dead elephants.  I might be wrong, but if that is so, the beauty of the art was in tension with the elephants’ death.  However, the embroidery and artwork didn’t involve anything getting hurt as far as we could tell.
 
Our guide didn’t seem too let down when we said that we wanted to go walkabout.  We walked down to the old colonial outpost that belonged to the French and British called Shamian Island.  After the Opium Wars a sandbar was given to the British and French to trade from.  It is still maintained well with old European style houses.  It was a beautiful day and so the area was crawling with brides having their pictures taken.  The facade was quite shallow as the brides hiked up their dresses revealing sneakers and jeans to run to the next location.  Near the old colonial church we took a picture with several brides being photographed at once.  From there we went through Qing Ping market which sells all kinds of foods.  The most exotic I saw were bags of dried seahorses and dried snakes.  The smell of the spices was very strong and I liked that a lot because it reminded me of the spice bazaars in Pakistan.  We walked the length of two of the main shopping streets in Guangzhou.  They are pedestrianized and teeming with people.  We bought nothing there, but we just experienced the huge numbers of people.  Finally we walked around Dr. Sun Yat sen’s memorial and back to the hotel.  It was a beautiful day for a beautiful walk.
 
For dinner, the adoptive families all went out together for Chinese.  The meal was great, but the conversation was even better.  I talked to Michael who is an AA counselor in Minneapolis.  He and his wife now have 9 children.  the men also talked about all the propositions we are receiving from local women who want to give us a massage.  We have suspicions that the massages would be particularly thorough.  One man actually had a ‘masseur’ come to his room and start to enter saying ‘you ask for massagey’.  His wife was there and so was his child.  When we all came back as a group from the meal, though they all seemed to leave us alone.
 
Amelia Lixin was a trooper.  She fell asleep in the carrier as we walked around and she was sweet natured.  She was talking happily to herself and she smiled at us quite easily.  She smiles more and more.  She does have a rash on her chin that is proving quite stubborn and she is drooling quite a lot because of the teething.  However, there is nothing major to worry about.
 
We Skype Mum and Daryl twice a day.  Daryl has little toys to open each day.  Yesterday he received Kung Foo Panda 2.  The story is set in China and revolves round adoption, so Kelli and I are looking forward to watching it when we get home.

Day 12
 
We had to go to the consulate at 7:50 but we slept a little later than usual.  It was a mad rush to get to breakfast, and we had a Skype with home which pushed things back.  I rushed to get Amelia Lixin and myself on the bus in time and then realised that I didn’t have the passports.  Everyone was very gracious, but it started the day flustered.  At the American Consulate everything calmed down until we got to the window.  The official asked for our documents and then saw that I was from England.  When he saw that he asked, “Do you like football?”  I could see where this was going and fearing the worst I said, “Yes, but I don’t like Manchester United.”  I know everyone here supports Man U. With that he gave a mock scowel and said, “No visa for you, then.”  In reality, I don’t think there should be a problem.  All our paperwork was in order and the stress of the morning was relieved.
 
Upon our return we got to walk inside the Yuexiu Park and to see the Statue of the Five Goats.  Legend says that in a time of famine five immortals came to save the city of Guangzhou riding upon five goats.  In the mouths of the goats was food to save the city.  Therefore this statue has become a great symbol of the city of Guangzhou.  We also were able to see Zhenhai Tower which was built by a local ruler to show his power over the city.  We came out of the park and walked within the grounds of Sun Yat Sen’s Memorial to get back to Beijing Street where we found a Chevignon store.  I once bought Chevignon jeans in 1994 in Hong Kong, but I haven’t found them since.  They were very comfortable, and I wanted to get another pair.  On our long walkabout the other day we had checked the right store, but we had not checked the right floor.  This time I was able to get to the right floor and find a pair of the elusive jeans.
 
After Amelia had taken a nap and Kelli and I had done some Moody work, we went and rested by the pool.  It was great weather for it and the pool was just right.  I was beaten soundly in the pool by two girls who take swimming lessons.  I think this is a mark of things to come as Daryl is doing well with his swimming back in the States.
 
In the evening Amelia was very well behaved as we went through Liuhuahu Park to have a ‘western’ meal outside by the lake.  It was a nice, scenic location to have our last supper by the water.  I got into a discussion with another member of the group, who I think had problems with my thoughts about social responsibility.  I was saying that I thought the government has a responsibility to take care of the sick and the poor and he was saying that it is the responsibility of the church.  I tried to point out that the church does have a responsibility to administrate funds which will feed the hungry and cure the sick, but that the government has responsibility too.  This sounded socialist to my friend.  I asked if he thought that giving money to a person who would help the poor efficiently and effectively was wrong.  He conceded that it was not wrong.  I asked if he would only give money to that person if they were saved.  He said that would not be essential.  I pointed out that it was not then the government, but the size, efficiency and effectiveness which he was concerned about.  If the government was one person who he trusted, he would hand over his money.  I also pointed out that church government has historically been equally corrupt.  He claimed the Bible supported his view exclusively, I said that the Old Testament supported the view that it is good for government (the monarchy) to administrate funds to take care of the less fortunate.  This is a common discussion that I have in the States and I do not wish for Socialism or Communism (or Capitalism), I wish for Jesus Christ to rule directly and be the head of the government that I mentioned above.  On that point my friend and I had agreement, so we left it there.
 
We had a lively conversation with Daryl on Skype and he got to see Amelia in her traditional Chinese outfit – complete with spit-up accessories – before we went to bed.

Day 13
 
First of all, because I was writing from China and sending pictures I think it raised a red flag for hotmail.  They put us through a security check.  I think that everything is okay, but if you find that I am advertising liaisons with Russian women or selling timeshares in Bolivia, then please let me know.  In all likelihood it is not me.
 
Today we took our time with breakfast and then had a service for those who are leaving early.  Kelli slept in the room and Amelia Lixin napped for three hours.  I got some more papers graded.
 
In the afternoon we walked into the hear of the old city and found Luirong Temple.  There were a lot of Buddhist icons for sale near the temple and the streets were quaint.  we managed to take a picture before heading back to the Liuhua Garment Wholesale Fairs to get a couple of outfits for the kids.
 
As I write Amelia seems to have a lot of wind and isn’t getting to sleep.  Tomorrow is our huge travel day – so we hope to see her calm down and drop off soon.

Day 14

We took a packed breakfast and left the hotel by 6:00 a.m.  We ‘hopped’ to Shanghai with a number of other families and then changed to United.  They had to change planes and they messed up everyone’s seating.  Our friends Beth and Gregg were actually seated in a separate section from their 8-month-old before United finally sorted out their problem.  We were seated separately and bargained with those around us.  Firstly the man next to me agreed to let me have the aisle seat so that I could go down to help Kelli with Amelia Lixin who was on her lap.  Kelli had better luck and got the man beside her to trade his central seat with me.  As I sat down the man next to me grumpily buried his head into the latest book in the Bourne series and I could tell that he wasn’t happy.  Amelia cried shortly after takeoff and Mr. Sourpuss kept shooting us evil glances.  I sat as still as possible for 6 hours as he slept, but when he moved I took a second to rush to the toilet.  Upon my return Kelli handed me Amelia and she lay asleep on my lap all the way to Chicago.

Customs was a 2hr nightmare.  We were so ready to see Daryl, Mum and our friend James.  However, because Amelia Lixin became a USA citizen upon admission to the USA we had to go into a special immigration line.  Finally, we saw Daryl and he exploded with joy and had to be restrained to prevent him from running through the doors to meet us.  Mum, James and Daryl held a Welcome Amelia sign and we were home at last.  Lots of hugs.  Lots of smiles. 

When Daryl went to sleep that night he said, “I like my sister, Amelia.  But I like my new Chinese police car better.”  Precious.

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One Day Until We Fly

The Reason we Fly Tomorrow

We will fly tomorrow to pick up this little girl from China.  It has been quite the day, though.  I have been working on a last will and testament.  We didn’t have one and so it seems appropriate to make one out with international travel on the near horizon.  Unfortunately all the on-line programs asked for personal information so that you would get your ‘free’ template.  In the end we bought Quicken Willmaker. I also got the documents about our tax dispute from the local Edward Jones office.  Our financial advisor thinks that the forms we now have will show the IRS that they owe us money.  That took the pressure off for the moment until we found that one of us had lost the only key to our Mini Cooper.  I had to leave to teach at Harvest Christian Academy in the Land Rover because it had not been found. 

At Harvest I saw my old friend Roger Kettering and taught a couple of classes the British perspective on the Revolutionary War.  As you can see I dressed up and used Romans 13 as my basis to convince them not to join the rebellion.  I also found some origional recruiting pamphlets and first hand accounts of British civility and kindness which contrasts the Mel Gibson Patriot image of the British.  In fact I found that The Patriot was listed by TIME magazine among the ten most historically misleading movies of all time http://entertainment.time.com/2011/01/26/top-10-historically-misleading-films/#the-patriot-2000 .

 Before dinner I found the Mini key in the bottom of the kitchen rubbish bin and had a visit from Daryl’s social worker and the Powells from next door.  After dinner I am packing and getting the last details taken care of.

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Two Days Until We Fly

As anyone who knows me well will tell you, I hate flying.  It makes me anxious.  I keep thinking of the time it takes for a plane to drop out of the sky and for the people on board to panic.  Since I will be in the air for 14 hours on Wednesday, I need to get used to the idea of flying.  I am going through a crash course in facing my fears because there is plenty of flying that will happen in China after we arrive.  For those interested in our itinerary it is:

March 15, 2012  Arrive in Beijing via UA851 @ 3:40 p.m.  Airport pickup.  Stay at Chang’an Grand Hotel.

March 16th, 2012  Orientation meeting at 10:00 a.m. Acrobatic show in the afternoon.

March 17th, 2012 Visit Great Wall, Cloisonne Factory.  Lunch included.

March 18th, 2012 Visit Tiananmen Square, Forbidden City and Hutong Tour.  Lunch included.  Flight CN7193 (17:05-19:20) to Nanchang.  Stay in Galactic Hotel.

March 19th, 2012 Receive Yue Lixin in the morning.  Adoption registration in the afternoon.

March 20th, 2012  Free

March 21st, 2012 Visit Teng Wang Pavilion.

March 22nd, 2012 Visit Jianxi Provincial Museum, or People’s Park depending on the weather.

March 23rd, 2012 Receive all documents.  Flight MU5255 (14:00-15:30) to Guangzhou (Canton).  China Hotel Marriott pickup.

March 24th, 2012 Medical Exam in the morning.

March 25th, 2012 Visit Guangzhou Folk Art Museum

March 26th, 2012 Visa Appointment

March 27th, 2012 Pick up visa in the afternoon.

March 28th, 2012 Flight MU 5316 (7:45-10:00) to Shanghai to connect to Flight UA836 @ 5:55 to USA

So, you can see a lot of flying is in order.  Kelli likes to point out that I drive the dangerous roads of Chicago every day, but I am in control in those situations.  So, it might be good just to relax and relinquish my control issues.

Today was a bit crazy.  There was a lot of shopping to do.  I bought formula, baby snacks, diapers (nappies), and supplies for Daryl.  We are leaving him with presents like an Asian Playmobil zoo and Kung Foo Panda 2.  We have not seen Kung Foo Panda 2, but we have heard that it is based in China and it has an adoption story.  Daryl will open a present each day.  The mothers at Westlake Christian Academy helped Kelli plan this out, I think.  We are also going to try and Skype.  I checked with our phone company and the phones we have will work in China.  We will take my phone and leave Kelli’s phone with my mother so she can text us.  My mother is nervous because there are so many things organised for Daryl to do while we are away.  I tried to reassure her that as long as she and daryl are in one piece when we return I will be happy.

After shopping I posted mail to the UK for Easter.  Kelli also sent in an entry for a writing competition.  Now that she has finished her thesis for her MFA (a memoir of being raised by disabled parents and then trying to make sense of infertility and adoption), it is a case of trying to get parts of it published.  After the adoption it is possible that Kelli will compile a book.  The adoption would be the final chapter in the first installment.

I got home to a wonderful pair of presents for Daryl and Lixin (Amelia).  The Coppens family, who first contacted us about Daryl, sent a special something for him and something else to welcome Amelia.  We are leaving those presents here for straight after the trip and then we will open them.  With those presents I got a very toughtful letter from the IRS.  Apparently there was an error with our 2010 taxes.  The first page tells me that we owe them close to $8,000 dollars.  However, upon reading the rest of the document it became clear where their error was.  My friend Gary, who works for Edward Jones, gave me some insight and the anxiety never really kicked in.  In fact Gary, being British, told me to Keep Calm and Carry On.  I will be trying to sort of much of it out as I can tomorrow with those directly involved, but we only have until April 4th.

daryl was a bit weepy and tired today because he has a cough.  We let him sleep on the couch this afternoon and he woke up disgruntled and had decided the cushions needed a little bit more moisture.  He was too sleepy to understand why he was being whisked away and changed by me as my mother cleaned the couch.  So he went from unsettled to restless.  We are hoping that he sleeps well tonight.

I also had an appointment with my dentist.  I was afraid he was going to take out my wisdom teeth, but it was only a consultation.  He has decided that he will take out my wisdom teeth in June.

There is a lot to pack and a lot to put in place still.  Kelli is a little stressed, but on the whole she is managing it well.  I will go down to Harvest Christian Academy tomorrow dressed in Revolutionary War attire.  If I get back alive, I will be able to dedicate the rest of the day to helping her get packed for Wednesday.

For those of you who are the praying type, there is plenty above to pray for.  We’d be grateful for any of that kind of support.

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Spring Break

It is Spring Break for my wife and myself and we are taking a two week trip to China.  We will be collecting our daughter Yue Lixin and returning to the USA on March 28th.  Posts on Proverbs will resume at that point.

God Bless

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Proverbs 8:23-36

23 I was formed long ages ago,
   at the very beginning, when the world came to be.
24 When there were no watery depths, I was given birth,
   when there were no springs overflowing with water;
25 before the mountains were settled in place,
   before the hills, I was given birth,
26 before he made the world or its fields
   or any of the dust of the earth.
27 I was there when he set the heavens in place,
   when he marked out the horizon on the face of the deep,
28 when he established the clouds above
   and fixed securely the fountains of the deep,
29 when he gave the sea its boundary
   so the waters would not overstep his command,
and when he marked out the foundations of the earth.
 30 Then I was constantly[e] at his side.
I was filled with delight day after day,
   rejoicing always in his presence,
31 rejoicing in his whole world
   and delighting in mankind.

 32 “Now then, my children, listen to me;
   blessed are those who keep my ways.
33 Listen to my instruction and be wise;
   do not disregard it.
34 Blessed are those who listen to me,
   watching daily at my doors,
   waiting at my doorway.
35 For those who find me find life
   and receive favor from the LORD.
36 But those who fail to find me harm themselves;
   all who hate me love death.”

Sacred Feminine

Books like the da Vinci Code think that the feminine is undervalued in Christian tradition.  They even think that Christians have changed the text and hidden passages to make sure that women stay in their place.  The facts do not agree with this theory, but still some passages in the Bible are a problem.  For example the second half of Proverbs 8 has a woman, in Greek Sophia is her name.  She stands with God and works with him in the creation of the world.  Woman Wisdom, then is seen by some to be evidence of the Sacred Feminine goddess who is co-equal with Yahweh and is even his consort.  Together, it is said that they create the world.  She is then seen as the Logos and in a few circles hymns have been altered to sing to her as well as Yahweh and so balance out the masculine and the feminine.

The problem with using this text in that way is that Wisdom is not equal with God in this passage.  The language is poetic and Sophia is an invented character to show the principles of wisdom and their foundational importance in the fabric of creation.  Certainly this passage has informed passages in the New Testament, but the New Testament did not obliterate a goddess Sophia and then weave her attributes into Christ.

Questions

  1. How would you describe Sophia/Wisdom’s role in Creation?
  2. Do you think such a role is literal or figurative?
  3. How does Wisdom resemble Christ?
  4. How are American laws founded on the wisdom that is created in the fabric of the world?
  5. Why are American laws becoming less wise by biblical standards?
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Proverbs 8:1-22

1 Does not wisdom call out?
   Does not understanding raise her voice?
2 At the highest point along the way,
   where the paths meet, she takes her stand;
3 beside the gate leading into the city,
   at the entrance, she cries aloud:
4 “To you, O people, I call out;
   I raise my voice to all mankind.
5 You who are simple, gain prudence;
   you who are foolish, set your hearts on it.[a]
6 Listen, for I have trustworthy things to say;
   I open my lips to speak what is right.
7 My mouth speaks what is true,
   for my lips detest wickedness.
8 All the words of my mouth are just;
   none of them is crooked or perverse.
9 To the discerning all of them are right;
   they are upright to those who have found knowledge.
10 Choose my instruction instead of silver,
   knowledge rather than choice gold,
11 for wisdom is more precious than rubies,
   and nothing you desire can compare with her.

 12 “I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence;
   I possess knowledge and discretion.
13 To fear the LORD is to hate evil;
   I hate pride and arrogance,
   evil behavior and perverse speech.
14 Counsel and sound judgment are mine;
   I have insight, I have power.
15 By me kings reign
   and rulers issue decrees that are just;
16 by me princes govern,
   and nobles—all who rule on earth.[b]
17 I love those who love me,
   and those who seek me find me.
18 With me are riches and honor,
   enduring wealth and prosperity.
19 My fruit is better than fine gold;
   what I yield surpasses choice silver.
20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
   along the paths of justice,
21 bestowing a rich inheritance on those who love me
   and making their treasuries full.

 22 “The LORD brought me forth as the first of his works,[c][d]
   before his deeds of old;

Old Friend

My friend Richard has an old friend who went to Bible college with him.  I read a letter in which he accounts his slide away from the Christian faith.  He describes how he stopped going to church and noticed very little difference in his life.  He engaged in affairs.  He read Richard Dawkins and Hitchens and decided that rather than calling himself an agnostic he would own the term ‘atheist’.  As he embraced an increasingly self-serving and godless way of life his joy diminished, his health failed, and he lost anything of value he had.  The reality is that God has laid out a path.  If we seek him the essentials that make a meaningful, joyful life are added to us.  If we walk away from him, we are fools who think we are wise.  We have no reason for existence and we are meaningless:  we are all sound and fury signifying nothing.  Arguments against fairies, goblins, and spaghetti monsters miss the point.  The existence of such trivial myths explains nothing.  The explaining power of an eternal God is in a different league.  To reduce all things to science denies the reality of aspects of existence we intuitively know to be of value:  I mean things like poetry, literature, mathematics, mystery.  God best explains the multiple facets of reality.  However, the fool determinedly says, there is no god.  Wisdom cries out to them.

Questions

  1. Do you heed wisdom’s call?
  2. What does a life of wisdom bring?
  3. Why would people in ancient Israel be determined to follow folly?
  4. Does a corrupt lifestyle lead people to deny God, or does a lack of faith produce a corrupt lifestyle?
  5. Why would learned people who are atheists be considered fools by the Bible?
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Proverbs 7:1-27

 1 My son, keep my words
   and store up my commands within you.
2 Keep my commands and you will live;
   guard my teachings as the apple of your eye.
3 Bind them on your fingers;
   write them on the tablet of your heart.
4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”
   and to insight, “You are my relative.”
5 They will keep you from the adulterous woman,
   from the wayward woman with her seductive words.

 6 At the window of my house
   I looked down through the lattice.
7 I saw among the simple,
   I noticed among the young men,
   a youth who had no sense.
8 He was going down the street near her corner,
   walking along in the direction of her house
9 at twilight, as the day was fading,
   as the dark of night set in.

 10 Then out came a woman to meet him,
   dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
11 (She is unruly and defiant,
   her feet never stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the squares,
   at every corner she lurks.)
13 She took hold of him and kissed him
   and with a brazen face she said:

 14 “Today I fulfilled my vows,
   and I have food from my fellowship offering at home.
15 So I came out to meet you;
   I looked for you and have found you!
16 I have covered my bed
   with colored linens from Egypt.
17 I have perfumed my bed
   with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning;
   let’s enjoy ourselves with love!
19 My husband is not at home;
   he has gone on a long journey.
20 He took his purse filled with money
   and will not be home till full moon.”

 21 With persuasive words she led him astray;
   she seduced him with her smooth talk.
22 All at once he followed her
   like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deer[a] stepping into a noose[b]
 23 till an arrow pierces his liver,
like a bird darting into a snare,
   little knowing it will cost him his life.

 24 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
   pay attention to what I say.
25 Do not let your heart turn to her ways
   or stray into her paths.
26 Many are the victims she has brought down;
   her slain are a mighty throng.
27 Her house is a highway to the grave,
   leading down to the chambers of death.

Adulterous Person

The figure in the passage who leads the man astray is an adulterous woman – it could easily be a man.  We need to take the principles of the passage and realise that just like wicked men are depicted in chapter one, wicked women are depicted here.  However, there are violent women and there are seductive men.  The lure of the adulterous woman is highly sensual.  Sensual is not bad.  Song of Songs praises an erotic union that includes sensual indulgence.  However, the lust here is shallow and only arouses the senses.  There is no real intimacy; there is no coming together of like minds.  The young man pursues an erotic fantasy but reality ruins him.  Pornography and prostitution feed on fantasy, but they do not ruin a person as completely as adultery.  Men also seduce women.  They become an emotional safe place.  Men can be charming and attentive, but soon it is a snare and the woman is caught in a tangled web of intrigue that can only lead to ruin.  In this foolish age we excuse the path to ruin because our emotions take us there and we can’t help it.  However,wise people think as they act.  We need to raise children who do not react with the pull of their emotions only, but who are mindful of where such emotions take them.  This means talking about sensate desires and wants and comparing them to the will of God.  Does this thing lead me to God?  Then it is wise.  No adulterous affair leads a person closer to God.

Questions

  1. What does the woman do to seduce the man?
  2. How is this woman a contrast to Lady Wisdom?
  3. Why is the youth destroyed?
  4. What do people use to seduce others today?
  5. What makes a person ripe for an affair?
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Proverbs 6:1-35

1 My son, if you have put up security for your neighbor,
   if you have shaken hands in pledge for a stranger,
2 you have been trapped by what you said,
   ensnared by the words of your mouth.
3 So do this, my son, to free yourself,
   since you have fallen into your neighbor’s hands:
Go—to the point of exhaustion—[a]
   and give your neighbor no rest!
4 Allow no sleep to your eyes,
   no slumber to your eyelids.
5 Free yourself, like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter,
   like a bird from the snare of the fowler.

 6 Go to the ant, you sluggard;
   consider its ways and be wise!
7 It has no commander,
   no overseer or ruler,
8 yet it stores its provisions in summer
   and gathers its food at harvest.

 9 How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
   When will you get up from your sleep?
10 A little sleep, a little slumber,
   a little folding of the hands to rest—
11 and poverty will come on you like a thief
   and scarcity like an armed man.

 12 A troublemaker and a villain,
   who goes about with a corrupt mouth,
 13 who winks maliciously with his eye,
   signals with his feet
   and motions with his fingers,
 14 who plots evil with deceit in his heart—
   he always stirs up conflict.
15 Therefore disaster will overtake him in an instant;
   he will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.

 16 There are six things the LORD hates,
   seven that are detestable to him:
    17 haughty eyes,
      a lying tongue,
      hands that shed innocent blood,
    18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
      feet that are quick to rush into evil,
    19 a false witness who pours out lies
      and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

Warning Against Adultery

 20 My son, keep your father’s command
   and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
21 Bind them always on your heart;
   fasten them around your neck.
22 When you walk, they will guide you;
   when you sleep, they will watch over you;
   when you awake, they will speak to you.
23 For this command is a lamp,
   this teaching is a light,
and correction and instruction
   are the way to life,
24 keeping you from your neighbor’s wife,
   from the smooth talk of a wayward woman.

 25 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty
   or let her captivate you with her eyes.

 26 For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread,
   but another man’s wife preys on your very life.
27 Can a man scoop fire into his lap
   without his clothes being burned?
28 Can a man walk on hot coals
   without his feet being scorched?
29 So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife;
   no one who touches her will go unpunished.

 30 People do not despise a thief if he steals
   to satisfy his hunger when he is starving.
31 Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold,
   though it costs him all the wealth of his house.
32 But a man who commits adultery has no sense;
   whoever does so destroys himself.
33 Blows and disgrace are his lot,
   and his shame will never be wiped away.

 34 For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury,
   and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will not accept any compensation;
   he will refuse a bribe, however great it is.

Three Ways to Get Poor Fast

If you want to lose everything, one way is simply to manage your finances badly.  If you scan the internet you will soon find a scam that tells you how to make millions in two weeks.  Of course, as soon as you give credit card information, social-security numbers, or any other identifying feature the scam artist will take everything that you have got.  Sometimes compassion can lead us to take on another person’s debt.  It is compassionate to pay something off for a friend in hard times, but a surefire way to lose a lot of money is to bind yourself to someone financially who is a financial nightmare.

A second way to ruin yourself is to be lazy.  Poor people may have got there through misfortune – poverty does not equal laziness, but laziness brings poverty.  So to keep yourself poor, make sure that you stay in bed and refuse to lift a hand to help yourself.  If you are a parent, you can ruin your children by taking everything out of their hands and not having them work hard for what they own.

Finally, go and have an affair with another man’s treasured wife.  Actually, he may just kill you for having an affair with her even if he is not that taken with her.  Just give him a reason to ruin you.  Of course, you could deplete your bank account with a prostitute but that does take a long time according to the proverbs above.  It is much more effective to ruin yourself with an adulterous affair.  In this way your spouse can sue you for a truck-load of money and your affair may leave you heartbroken and in need of serious medical care.  If you live in the US and the offended spouse hits you with a truck, it is probably the medical bills that will ruin you most quickly.

So, if we want to lead our children down a path of ruin, we should teach them to form unwise financial alliances in attempts to get rich quick; we should adopt a passive attitude to life; and we should proactively seek to start an affair with a married person.

Questions

  1. What three ways does the writer show as ways to ruin?
  2. How are youths more prone to get led astray in these ways?
  3. How would you describe a ‘scoundrel’ using the words of the author of Proverbs?
  4. Why are ‘scoundrels’ viewed romantically in the media these days?
  5. What role models can we hold up to children who have made sound investments, avoided being scoundrels, and not committed adultery?
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Proverbs 5:1-23

1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom,
   turn your ear to my words of insight,
2 that you may maintain discretion
   and your lips may preserve knowledge.
3 For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
   and her speech is smoother than oil;
4 but in the end she is bitter as gall,
   sharp as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
   her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 She gives no thought to the way of life;
   her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.

 7 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
   do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her,
   do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you lose your honor to others
   and your dignity[a] to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
   and your toil enrich the house of another.
11 At the end of your life you will groan,
   when your flesh and body are spent.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
   How my heart spurned correction!
13 I would not obey my teachers
   or turn my ear to my instructors.
14 And I was soon in serious trouble
   in the assembly of God’s people.”

 15 Drink water from your own cistern,
   running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
   your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
   never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
   and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
   may her breasts satisfy you always,
   may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
   Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?

 21 For your ways are in full view of the LORD,
   and he examines all your paths.
22 The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them;
   the cords of their sins hold them fast.
23 For lack of discipline they will die,
   led astray by their own great folly.

Sex is Good

God’s people have such a poor reputation for great sex.  The sex that is presented to us as great is passionate and non-committal.  It is not intimate but self-satisfying.  Two people do not open to themselves from the core of their being.  On person takes from the other an experience that lacks lasting significance.  Within a marriage true disclosure of soul, mind and body occurs.  The unity of sex is a bond that equals the bond that exists in the mind and the emotions of lovers committed to each other for the long haul.  The honeyed words of an adulteress promise much, but they will turn bitter as the affair fades.  This is not the way of wisdom.  Wisdom builds a sexual union that will last and produce fruit that contrasts the regret some feel in their old age. 

Questions

  1. What does the adulteress promise?
  2. What does she deliver?
  3. What does marriage deliver?
  4. How is your sex life?  Is it appropriate for your stage in life?
  5. How is complete sexual union of mind, body, and spirit available in marriage?
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