Better a dry crust with peace and quiet
than a house full of feasting, with strife.
2 A prudent servant will rule over a disgraceful son
and will share the inheritance as one of the family.
3 The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold,
but the Lord tests the heart.
4 A wicked person listens to deceitful lips;
a liar pays attention to a destructive tongue.
5 Whoever mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker;
whoever gloats over disasterwill not go unpunished.
6 Children’s children are a crown to the aged,
and parents are the pride of their children.
God allows us to be in situations that push us for a reason. The situations that try us the most potentially give us the chance to show our character more completely. God, I believe has designed marriage for this purpose. The home should be a crucible where the value and worth of each individual is shown through trials and self-sacrifice. When we get married we often focus on what we have in common. We see what is the same, but we focus less on what is different. The differences themselves often seem endearing. Add the pressure of children, pressure on finances, pressure from in-laws and the marriage seems a little different. Some say the love dies at this point, but it is the narcissistic infatuation that ends. At this point the road is clear to selflessly love someone who has always been different from us. This does not mean that we pressure others into change for their own good. It means that we see how God is testing us and come to God to be changed to make us more unconditional in our love.
- What does the house with peace and quiet lack?
- What does God test like a crucible tests gold and silver?
- How should a family view each other?
- What do the people that you work with think they need in their house to be happy?
- Why do we keep moving and consuming things we don’t need rather than stopping and learning to be grateful?